Advice and tips from Grannies Group

My gran was a very tough woman... she would have fit in on the prairie, or, in the middle of a group of woman from my papa's congregation. Not much phased her and common sense was the key to her and her generation. I think they would shake their heads at our generation and tell us to get a grip! She and my papa were married forever, well over 60 years and her marriage advice to me on the eve of their 50th wedding anniversary was "to lie". Now there wasn't a more honest woman on the face of the earth than my gran and I was shocked! When I asked what she meant, she replied "our thoughts and emotions lie to us... some mornings I looked at your papa and wondered what on earth I was thinking when I married him and some days I didn't like him at all! But, when I married him, I made a commitment to love, honor and obey him... the obey part went right out the window, but, even on the days when I didn't like him, I chose to love him and I chose to treat him like I loved him and I'm sure he did the same for me when he had those kinds of days. Those days of "lying" to each other, got us through until the love simmered heated us up again."

This was a friend of her's advice on Preserving a husband:

Choose carefully.. Do not bring them to a boil....Many insist on keeping them in hot water, but this makes them hard and sour.... Be careful not to chill them with indifference; instead keep them warm with the sunshine of your love..... Even the poor varieties may be sweet, tender and good if spiced with the essence of love and a helping of play. If treated this way... they will last for years!